| rdfs:comment | - BDSM (anagramo por DMSB, SBMD, MSDB, KTP.) estas mallongigo, kiu devenas de la angla bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism (katenado kaj disciplino, superrego kaj submetiĝo, sadismo kaj masoĥismo). Temas pri preferoj kaj kondutoj, ofte seksaj, kiujn oni en la ĉiutaga lingvaĵo ankaŭ nomas per la malpli preciza esprimo "sadomasoĥismo". Temas pri la Hungara Trafik Klubo, do ne temas pri seksa misuzo.
- Elements of BDSM can be found in:
* The River of Night's Dreaming
* The Yellow House
- Though the practice has existed for centuries, it is only recently in the age of the internet that it has blossomed so. The popularity of BDSM (whatever it is) has increased to the point where it is no longer considered a mental illness by the health department in Scandinavia, so you could consider moving there. Your local health department's opinion may vary, so please be aware of that (or run the risk being put into a straitjacket). But then again, you might enjoy that.
- BDSM is an abbrevation for Bondage, Discipline and Sado-Masochism.
- BDSM is a wide range of consensual activities that are either sexual or indirectly connected to sexuality. The four letters can be read in two ways: either as the initialism for Bondage, Dominance and SadoMasochism, or as being a condensed version of Bondage & Discipline + Dominance & Submission + Sadism & Masochism. BDSM can be traumatic for unsuspecting readers, and it is advised that writers include a warning.
- BDSM is a blanket term referring to the practice of a wide spectrum of activities and forms of interpersonal relationships. While not always overtly sexual in nature, the activities and relationships within a BDSM context are almost always eroticized by the participants in some fashion. As many of these practices fall outside of commonly held social norms, they may be viewed as a form of sexual fetishism, although activities and interpersonal relationships are also eroticized in this fashion, and not merely objects.
- BDSM is a three-way acronym that explains itself: 'BD' for bondage and discipline, 'DS' for dominant/submissive, and 'SM' for sadomasochism. BDSM covers an array of sexual kinks involving any combination of the three topics above, ranging from mild name-calling and emphasized dominant/submissive roles, to the traditional fetish for restraints and/or pain, and even further. BDSM in a fic is not in itself a charge; writing it badly can be, but one must bear in mind Your Kink Is Not My Kink.
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| abstract | - BDSM is a wide range of consensual activities that are either sexual or indirectly connected to sexuality. The four letters can be read in two ways: either as the initialism for Bondage, Dominance and SadoMasochism, or as being a condensed version of Bondage & Discipline + Dominance & Submission + Sadism & Masochism. BDSM can be traumatic for unsuspecting readers, and it is advised that writers include a warning. Bondage means tying someone up, usually with ropes. Can also be with chains or whatever, or putting someone in a cage, or simply forbidding the person to move. The latter is sometimes categorized as Discipline. To be Bondage, it has to be sexual and consensual. If it is consensual but not sexual, it's just a game. If it is neither sexual nor consensual, it's kidnapping. If it's sexual but not consensual, it's kidnapping or sexual assault or both. Dominance / Dominance & Submission is exchange of power: One person choosing to surrender to another by their own free will. Because they want to, not because they have been coerced or extorted in any way. Of course, the surrender only counts if it's accepted by the Dominant. SadoMasochism / Sadism & Masochism is the experience of pain - of the right kind, from the right person, in the right context. It can take the form of spankings, whippings, hot candle wax, etc. If the person who provides these experiences is also enjoying the session, then this person is called a "sadist". These people typically combine their sadism with empathy and ethics, and are thus not dangerous or destructive in any way. However, a person who is a sexual sadist and a psychopath is an entirely different matter. Some people combine all three parts, while others pick only one or two. It's a smorgasbord. Some people are masochists without being submissive, while some people are submissive without wanting pain to be a part of the deal at all. Of the people who enjoy both D&S and S&M, some enjoy each of them in their own right, while others enjoy one and only use the other to reinforce the experience. Likewise, some people enjoy both being the dominant and being the submissive. This is often referred to as being a "switch". Others enjoy only one of the positions.
- BDSM (anagramo por DMSB, SBMD, MSDB, KTP.) estas mallongigo, kiu devenas de la angla bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism (katenado kaj disciplino, superrego kaj submetiĝo, sadismo kaj masoĥismo). Temas pri preferoj kaj kondutoj, ofte seksaj, kiujn oni en la ĉiutaga lingvaĵo ankaŭ nomas per la malpli preciza esprimo "sadomasoĥismo". Temas pri la Hungara Trafik Klubo, do ne temas pri seksa misuzo.
- BDSM is a three-way acronym that explains itself: 'BD' for bondage and discipline, 'DS' for dominant/submissive, and 'SM' for sadomasochism. BDSM covers an array of sexual kinks involving any combination of the three topics above, ranging from mild name-calling and emphasized dominant/submissive roles, to the traditional fetish for restraints and/or pain, and even further. BDSM in a fic is not in itself a charge; writing it badly can be, but one must bear in mind Your Kink Is Not My Kink. It is very important to note that the presence of BDSM in a relationship is not an indicator of the state of that relationship. Just because a couple likes to participate in spankings doesn't mean they are actually abusing each other. Bad relationships can still happen, of course, but what happens during a BDSM session is (at least supposed to be) role-play or pretend-play meant to engage and arouse, and may not reflect what either partner wants or how they think in their public lives. A very independent and outgoing person can have the desire to be tied up and called nasty names; a pacifist can enjoy tying up and paddling someone. They're sexual fantasies, not social values. To prevent real damage, physical or otherwise, many BDSM couples use or are encouraged to use a 'safe word'. Using this safe word means that the other partner will stop all activities. Regardless of what many may think, the unofficial big rule in most BDSM communities is the rule of Safe, Sane, and Consensual, meaning that a kink experience should be all of these things or not happen at all. Unfortunately, it seems like some people didn't get the memo: BDSM is often used to mean rape/non-con by unwise fans who don't know or understand the details of the subculture or even what BDSM as a term means. This can be traumatic for unsuspecting readers, especially if there isn't an actual rape/non-con warning on there as well.
- BDSM is a blanket term referring to the practice of a wide spectrum of activities and forms of interpersonal relationships. While not always overtly sexual in nature, the activities and relationships within a BDSM context are almost always eroticized by the participants in some fashion. As many of these practices fall outside of commonly held social norms, they may be viewed as a form of sexual fetishism, although activities and interpersonal relationships are also eroticized in this fashion, and not merely objects. Many activities can be found under the umbrella of BDSM, which include - but are not limited to - forms of social dominance, submission, discipline, punishment, bondage, sexual roleplaying, sexual fetishism, sadomasochism, and power exchange, as well as the full spectrum of mainstream personal and sexual interactions. The term BDSM itself is a complex acronym derived from the terms bondage and discipline (B&D), domination and submission (D&S, D/S, or Ds), sadism and masochism (S&M or SM). While some BDSM activities may appear to be violent or coercive, such activities are conducted with the consent of all partners involved. BDSM is not a form of sexual abuse. BDSM relationships and practices are exercised under the philosophy of "Safe, sane and consensual" (SSC), or the somewhat more liberal philosophy of "Risk-aware consensual kink" (RACK). Activities and relationships within a BDSM context are characterized by the fact that the participants usually take on complimentary, but unequal, roles. Typically, participants who are active – applying the activity or exercising control over others – are known as Tops or Dominants. Those participants which are recipients of the activities, or who are controlled by their partners, are typically known as Bottoms or Submissives. BDSM is often practiced within the context of a limited and defined encounter know as a BDSM scene. Such scenes often have a ritual aspects, complete with modes of behavior, forms of address, codes of conduct, dress codes, and many other aspects of theater and role playing. As such encounters are often – but not always – at least partly sexual in nature, people outside of BDSM have a tendency to view BDSM as a form of "kinky sex". Some participants, especially those who practice domination and submission or power exchange, incorporate aspects of BDSM into their everyday relationship(s) with their partner(s). For these individuals, BDSM is part of their lifestyle and in some discussions is referred to as "The Lifestyle".
- Elements of BDSM can be found in:
* The River of Night's Dreaming
* The Yellow House
- Though the practice has existed for centuries, it is only recently in the age of the internet that it has blossomed so. The popularity of BDSM (whatever it is) has increased to the point where it is no longer considered a mental illness by the health department in Scandinavia, so you could consider moving there. Your local health department's opinion may vary, so please be aware of that (or run the risk being put into a straitjacket). But then again, you might enjoy that.
- BDSM is an abbrevation for Bondage, Discipline and Sado-Masochism.
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